Sugar Cookie's Status
Well, friends - some of you have asked how Cookie is doing and what the status is. And, honestly, we don't have much more to add.May 15th is the deadline for the 161 paperwork to be filed with the court to start TPR and request a court date for that. We expect the date may be sometime in July depending on how bad the backup is in family court this month.
No word on Biomom's inpatient status for drug use - she apparently did test positive according to her probation officer. In order to avoid jail, she was ordered to inpatient. We have no idea if she ever went, or if she just went AWOL. This helps the argument for TPR. Biodad will be in jail for at least 9 yrs. No more family members have come forward.
R. (Cookie's worker) came to visit last night, and all seems to be going as planned. She did share a copy of the huge case plan, complete with every family member's entire name, age, and address, and exactly what Biomom was ordered to do, and how the goal was changed to adoption. Bioparents ages are worse than we originally thought - Biomom is 22 and Biodad is 46. That is not a typo. They have been together 10 years. That is not a typo either. You do the math. She has heard nothing from the probation officer, but will check in next week to get an update on Biomom.
We haven't had to do a visit since February when Biomom couldn't come to court because she "was sick", and the SW cancelled her visit, saying if she was too sick to come to court then she was too sick to risk infecting her child. After that, the probabation officer got suspicious and - viola - they were right to be.
Cookie is our joy - so beautiful we can't stop looking at her. She grins all the time, and is just starting to giggle. Her eyes are still bright, deep blue. There is a big patch of missing hair on the back of her head where her baby-hair has been rubbed off - and reddish-blonde hair is growing in where it used to be almost black. She rolls over now all the time, though she can't seem to get back onto her back once she's on her tummy. She is working on trying to figure out how to crawl, but can't seem to do anything except "scoot" a few inches before she gets frustrated. She "talks" a whole lot - ga, goooo, bwoooo - and enjoys making raspberries that are very "juicy" and loud. Raspberry-making is a very joyful thing. She has started trying a tiny bit of rice cereal, though she is not too keen on the spoon or the cereal - but in a warm bottle at night it seems to be pretty tasty to her.
Cookie loves watching basketball on TV, and is now glued to the NBA playoffs. If she is sitting on your lap and the game is on and you move so she can't see the TV, she fusses. Once you re-orient her toward the TV, she is mesmorized. Our little couch potato. Michael says she is going to be a power forward and play for Stanford. Recently, he took her to "Hoopla" here at UK and she got to meet coach Mickie DeMoss - the coach of the UK women's basketball team. Cookie also got to meet the players - they all had to hold her and pass her around - and one player even kissed her! Another player reprimanded her saying, "Man, you just can't go around kissin' people's babies! They don't know you!" Michael thought it was cute though, and Cookie loved being just as popular as the players themselves.
In 3 hours we are going to the pediatrician with her for her 4-month old series of shots. At her 2-month appointment, when she got her shots she cried so hard her little head looked like a tomato. The good news from that visit that I may not have posted is that she tested NEGATIVE for Hepatitis C (Biomom has both B & C - ugh). Cookie had about a 5% chance of contracting Hep C from Biomom, and thanks be to God - she did not! We were so relieved.
I will have to post an update letting you all know how much she weighs, how long she is, and how the dreaded shots went.
Our next visit with R. will be May 16th - the day after she submits the 161 paperwork. She will give us a copy as well, and we will talk about where we go from here.
Life's tremendously good.
Oh, as for names...yes, at adoption you are free and clear to re-name the child, and since Cookie is so young, we figure we will do just that. So - here's what we are thinking:
Mia Elizabeth
Jordan Elizabeth
Rebekah
Deborah Ruth
Michaela
Abigail
Ileana
Of course - your votes and nominations are welcome as we play around with options!
posted by No Longer In Crisis @ 4/28/2006 12:12:00 PM
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